It's never easy when your relationship breaks up and it's even more difficult when you have young children that really aren't quite old enough to understand that Mommy and Daddy don't live together anymore. However the basics for making the road to healing easier are to agree not to argue or "discuss" any personal issues in front of your kids and never use your kids against each other.
Then for your kids themselves, if there will be weekend visitations, use this time to make it fun for your kids to go to Daddy's house. Your little girl may be a little unsure about going away for a weekend but assure her that it will be fun to spend time her Dad and you're only a phone call away.
A special toy and a
special duffel bag of her own to take with her on the weekend trips will make it enjoyable too. Children feel secure when they know what to expect and letting your child have the same bag and a favorite stuffed toy to take along and also something to do on her own such as a coloring book and crayons will go along way to making her feel okay about her first weekend away from home. Use the same bag and let her choose her clothes (you may have to help her go over some of her choices in clothes for the weekend as shorts probably won't do in December); but this will help her feel secure and also develop a sense of independence.
Labels: boys, girls, toddler
by: Child Basics
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